R has been in the hospital in a city an hour away from our home since Monday, December 3. He is still in the hospital, and will be transferred to a physical therapy rehab facility tomorrow. He may be there 3 days or 3 weeks. I am hoping and praying for the longest time possible in hopes that he will recover some of his physical body strength, and that his open wounds will completely heal with the help of daily wound care and long-term antibiotics. He has a yeast infection (candida) which the doctor says is hard to get---and hard to heal. He also has a form of a strep infection, but not the kind associated with strep throat. He has a bacterial infection in the wounds on his feet and right leg. He is very weak, and is extremely wobbly in trying to walk on his own. He is definitely a fall risk. I am so relieved that I can't even put it into words that he will be cared for by professionals for some period of time. I am emotionally and physically drained to the point of being functional, but just barely.
I have been at one of my sisters' houses in the same city that the hospital and rehab facility are located in. She has been pampering me and nurturing me and giving me tender loving care. We got 10" of snow this past Sunday. It snowed ALL DAY. I was so relieved to be here at my sister's since we were snowed in on Monday. Marlee and I have been here since last Wednesday (December 5) and will be here until this Friday (December 14) when Marlee and I will go to a house that we own as a rental property that is vacant right now. We will make this our camp base for the time that R is in this city. After R is released from the rehab facility, then we will have to make some decisions about where we will be for the next 3 winter months. He wants to return to our remote (location) home...me, not so much. I'm afraid I will need help with him that may not be able to get to us because of possible inclement weather and the horrendous road we live on.
So, this is where we are right now. Just Going....One day at a time, one foot in front of the other, making each decision as it arises...
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9 comments:
I am grateful to know that you are being pampered by your sister. You need that. You have to recuperate, too! I hope they will keep him in rehab until he is stronger.
So challenging to not know what the future holds. It sounds like the rental property would be a good place to spend the winter, where you would be close to help, if needed.
Still praying for you!
We have good friends one who went into the hospital with heart problem last week. The wife is lonely and terrified and we are a thousand miles away feeling helpless. Yes, she has help, but it is so hard for them both. I am glad that you understand how respite for you is very important and wonderful that your sis is there for you. The hardest is not knowing how long before all is stabilized. Sending my most sincere good thoughts your way!
I am here...wish I were there so I could help you care for him. What a wonderful wife and caregiver you are...glad you are at your sissies!!! Love and hugs!
you needed rest and it came in the form of your husband going to the hospital. I'm sorry for all that you are going through - it is not just the patient that has a rough time but the caregiver too. You need your rest and help - I think you will need to put your foot down and stay at the rental property for the winter unless your husband gets remarkable better. Maybe the doctors or someone in the medical facility can explain and stress to your husband that he needs to be much closer to the hospitals and doctors for the winter and the toll it is taking on you? Glad your sister has been able to help you
those secondary things, the yeast, the bacterial, can
cause real difficulties as it goes. To be near HELP will be
crucial. Often after rehab there are home health visits that
can make all the difference in the world. I hope you
find out all you can. Please do. Being close, in the rental
home will allow that to happen. I hope he will understand what BOTH
of you need.
You are held in my Heart...be Strong in your intuitive Knowing.
Love and Love, grace
I hope things go well for you. It sounds like you have a lot to handle. So grateful you have your sister to lift your spirits. My husband broke his rib falling off a ladder a week and a half ago. He is flat in bed. It's hard to watch him in pain. I hope the infections heal soon so things will be more positive for you.
This sounds like an awful thing to have to deal with, particularly with inclement weather. I am so glad you have support in the form of your sister and a place you can stay where you have better access to medical assistance.
Thank you for the update!
Hugs to you and to your sis for her great care of you. You always make the best decisions. You know what is best for you and R. He has to depend on your good sense and you must trust your own council with the doctors and nurses input. Your questions to them are valid and really is their job to answer them so they can help you so you can help R! Taking care of yourself in every way helps R in every way too!
Thank goodness for rehab centers. He might complain but it is his best shot for recovery.
Remember to stay hydrated....and once in awhile have a cookie.
Love and light and many blessings...10 inches of snow is just ridiculous! One must laugh or one would cry.....
Sherryq
Earthquake???? Really??? Enough already....
Mother Nature must stop her attack.
~S~
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